Category Archives: Advice

How to Deal with Depression as a Christian

Full disclosure: I don’t believe in much. I am currently an atheist, or agnostic, or whatever. This may come as a blow to a few members of my family, and I’m sorry if this is how you’re learning about my leaving the fold. Please don’t tell Grandmother. That said, we’ve got strong love for one another, so I think we’ll be cool.

If I don’t believe in anything, why do I think I get to tell you about the Christian path through depression? Because I lived it. I was a believer until around the age of 22, and I was depressed and anxious… always. The whole time.

If you’re a Christian struggling with depression, you’ve gathered that your religion has positives and negatives when it comes to coping. You know that your church community can be helpful sometimes, and other times not so much. You may also agree that being depressed as a Christian feels… wrong somehow. Like a failure. If faith as a mustard seed can move mountains, is your faith broken? ... continue reading.

“Dear Callous Stranger,” #1

Welcome to the first installment of “Dear Callous Stranger,” an advice column of some sort.

Dear Callous Stranger,

Maybe "It was just her time to die" was not the best thing to say to your secretary, who was crushed by the recent suicide of her sister.

Angry Annna

Dear Angry Annna,

Holy fucking shit.

Your pal,
Callous Stranger

A Brief Note to Everyone Else

I’d like to offer a word of advice to all acquaintances of the bereaved (other than Annna’s boss, who will be fired into the Sun for the sake of humanity).

I know that you feel the need to say something, something, to co-workers who are grieving, but please consider shutting the fuck up. If you lack the empathy to realize that your input is neither wanted nor required, try not saying anything at all. Almost anything you say will sound like nails on a chalkboard at best, a dental drill in bone at worst. ... continue reading.

Dear Callous Stranger, Introduction

If you know me, you know that I like solving problems. I solve them so hard, sometimes they become other, bigger problems that are nearly insoluble. It’s just the type of guy I am.

In this spirit I unveil my latest Great Work, “Dear Callous Stranger,. This is an advice column in the vein of Dear Abby, having the same thinly-veiled contempt for humanity that hers often betrays.

I will not be good at it. My answers will be surreal things, twisted and unseemly, informed by madness and bile. Or maybe I’ll just give you some tips on how to stretch your rotator cuff. There may even be pictures!

I’m going to try to make this an every Wednesday kind of thing. If you want good advice, maybe hit up my comments or my email. If you want entertaining advice, send me an anonymous question in the box below. Give yourself a fun pen name lest you be assigned one. ... continue reading.