I’ve never been a smoker, so feel free to ignore everything after the first letter in this sentence. I do know a thing or two about compulsion, however, and I’d like to expound upon my lever post from yesterday with an example that might help clarify some things.
In order to work with a negative habit, you need two things: a crack, and a lever. The “lever” is nothing more than the proper motivation to change, something that resonates with you. The “crack” is any point in your cycle of negative behavior that is vulnerable. Both are absolutely vital. Imagine hitting a boulder with a crowbar versus sticking it in just the right crack and, as if by magic, watching the rock split in two.
So, hypothetical smoker, or anyone interested in behavior modification, let’s find your crack.
This can be tricky, because you might have been trying to use willpower to force yourself to stop smoking at the point when you most crave a cigarette. That’s not a crack, that’s the point where the rock is strongest. Oh, and willpower is bullshit. More on that later.